Answer (1 of 9): Well,, I always believe datings sites are make for us unattractive people, cause beautiful women won’t have such problem of dating. You can use all of them as you like 1. You will find it easier to cultivate and be appreciated for other talents. Even talented beautiful people have to battle with a sort of stigma- in this case, it's the stigma of being attractive. All By Patia Braithwaite. No one feels particularly special on a dating app. That’s what I want to tell her. My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and What I'm hearing is that she's, well, sort of attractive enough for you. When you're in bed, everything goes swimmingly, but you're not always completely enticed by her face in the AdJoin Millions of Americans Finding Love Online With Our Top 5 Sites For Relationships! See Why Singles Love These Dating Sites. Find Something Serious Or Casual. Start Today!Seen by Daily · College Graduates · Meet Professional Elites · Marriage-Minded ... read more
This gives women the power of choice. They get to pick males at the top of the modern food chain, and if you are not one…. well…forget about it and install StarCraft. What would people do if they could get away with it? The right opportunity could turn even the most righteous man into a thief.
Imagine that you are married. Suddenly, hot women start spamming you with superlatives and coded propositions for flesh based unions. What for? Tinder provides this opportunity to many women. The primary reason for women to install Tinder is neither sex nor a relationship quest. Women do it to boost their levels of self-worth.
A vast majority of the girls on Tinder have boyfriends and use the app to receive superlatives and feed their egos. A girl on Tinder confirmed this fact to me. The most effective confidence boost comes from good-looking guys. Nobody wants to receive compliments and likes from scrubs. Consequently, women chat primarily with the most aesthetically pleasing specimens.
Movies, commercials, magazines, street posters, reality shows and social media create the reality of the modern humanoid. The media have convinced everyone that the [steroid] look of fitness models is a direct result of training and all lifters could look like Panda or Zyzz after a summer in the gym.
Women are part of the brainwashed group too. They still think that a few curls and a set of push-ups in the morning will turn anyone into a muscle beast. They simply want to touch sexy muscle and care not about the real sacrifice behind the modern aesthetic fibers, for the fact that strong logic is often absent from the female cranium. A wise man once told me that looks cannot keep a relationship.
This is probably true, but online dating is just a beginning — the time when physical compatibility matters the most. You need fuel to keep a car going, but you also need a spark to start it. Shredded arms and a chiseled jawline provide the initial launch. The communication on Tinder and the like is extremely superficial and very few people get emotionally invested.
It happened to me more than a few times. The explanation? Those women were never into me and were simply trying to extract compliments from my thumbs. Your writing style is second to none generously laced with humor and incisiveness…. Keep it up buddy…. Based on stats.. yes , there will still be dolts who dont see this, but u will gain a much wider level of acceptance. Was genuinely a fun article to read. Women are very sneaky in that if the guy is appealing to them, the men are forgiven for their shortcomings.
Great text as usual! I realized that a lot of women are hypocrites , they are far worse than men in may areas! They are always talking shit how men are disgusting cause they are only interested in looks, and i know for a fact just like you said , they chasing good looking men far more! They also highly overestimate themselves , not to even mention a ton of makeup they use all the time!
Online everything is based on appearance. The only thing that matters is how you look. The average man has no chance there whereas the average woman is an online queen messaged to death from all kinds of males.
Naturally, she only wants the prince. So, I got to know my wife through a dating app 3 years ago! I wrote 2 girls, had 2 dates.. just do not expect too much.. that helped me! Humans were meant to meet each other in a social environment that is in the relm of reality. This is true of course. Now and then I end up giving online dating another try out of desperation and boredom but it never works. Cold approach women IRL?
Yea, right. More and more men are ending up alone. Who knows? Look up Steve Hoca videos on Youtube for more truth about his phenomenon. They just think they deserve a prince. not wasting my time competing or trying to impress… for a woman. The average man will end up alone today unless they settle for a very low status woman.
Average guys rarely get average girls today. It depends on the country. I guess in some countries this may be true. But online, the average man does not talk to the average woman. Online every woman is a princess that needs a prince.
Girls on there are full of shit. Both of those girls looked way worse in person than in their profile pics. Where with me its the opposite most guys actually.
Never wait past your third message to ask a girl out. Never read a girls bio, unless you have matched with her. Make it somewhere close to your place or hers. Build rapore ask her questions to build an emotional connection , Sexually escalate touch her and go for the kiss at least. Expect her to look worse in person. Put her at ease with herself by being relaxed and comfortable with yourself. Make sure when you see her that you hug her do not shake her hand or simply do nothing.
Try sit next to her and not opposite from her made that mistake once and had sore ribs for a week so that when you making out you not leaning over a table. You can learn the basics of push and pull if you want something to make the conversations more fun over text or in person or to recognise when its being done to you. However real game is internal. Its simply your belief in your own ability to accomplish a certain goal.
The pick-up artist community is nothing but a insecure group of individuals who hide behind lines and scripts. Most of them cannot even hold a basic conversation with a girl. Stay away from them and you will do just fine. You can do your own research about what works on tinder. Some stuff can improve you profile.
However truthseeker is correct, your looks and body speak volumes. The best advice I can offer is that accept that tinder is just side game, you main game should always be real conversations and hookups at bars or any other social setting.
Women have the upper hand on tinder. Accept that. Unless of course you look like a supermodel. Your goals come first. You come first. You can make this clear to her by the way you lead her, and make decisions in general. All she can offer you is sex. She must prove to you that she is a worthy companion worth more than just intercourse. Not the other way round.
If you value yourself this should be obvious. Ultimately work on your career, your body, your confidence.
All else is secondary. Always hold your composure, never let anything shake you be vulnerable at times but never weak. Focus on holding conversations with women, if you new to this, and speaking to as many as possible if you get nervous around attractive women. The fitness community and the pick-up artist dating community are the same. They are there to empty your wallet and make you more pathetic with women even after spending all your cash to so called learn the secrets.
Hope this helps. In conclusion, always be real to yourself, you can pretend to be someone else, but sooner or later, the real you will come out. If people are running away from you after just three weeks of knowing you after the facade falls away , then its your inner game that needs work. I know from a lifetime of experience and observation often learning the hard way, by errors that he is correct. Five or six pics maximum. I hope you give me a chance!
Never be desperate for women nor sex. Thank you for the advice. But I no longer use that app or any other app for that matter. thanks brett for the long post and it made a lot of sense to me.. the moment i sing a song that becomes famous, the opposite sex just comes forth… its like picking up low hanging ripe fruits from a tree…..
I think we guys need to stop fawning over girls and let our status, our looks making the best of what we have , our talents and careers do the talking…. While I always felt the PUA community is mostly a bunch of bullocks, years ago I so much as confirmed the same from one credible source via David DeAngelo and his sexual communication series.
Much of what I read was already something I did instinctively, but he did a rather fine job of explaining it well. One last important motif in this discussion, that needs repeating, is the importance of body language — aka biological signaling. Namely, if you are confident, secure and strong it shows through your body language, not your words, and that very important to women.
If any unnecessary motion is exhibited, or you tap your fingers or feet anxiously, you send off a negative vibe that women pick up instantly.
Once you spook them you can never earn their trust. It shows assertiveness and character, and prevents you from putting yourself in a position where you are validating yourself to her. Yea, I met my wife during the time after 3years immersed in a social environments such as College, Work full time, going to Bars 4 times a week and going to a Church that had house meetings once a week.
Before all that I was on a huge learning curve of self confidence and realizing talking to women was not a difficult as a made it out to be. Believe me it took some time and pushing myself out of my comfort zone consistently. After getting married, well that is a different story as you have to bring it up to a different level of emotional intelligence and Relational navigation. You may be right. And quite science based. It was interviews with sex therapists, psychologists, and various other walks of life folks that was both interesting, educational and fun to listen to admittedly I did download the series for free so it never cost me anything.
But I digress. This is pure certified organic horseshit. Looking back some were even outright douche bags. How might I ask did they do it?
Once you are around such guys, you clearly realize from their success that much of what is considered gospel by the doubting crowd in this comments section is nothing more than erroneous sour grapes. RedPill online community. But there is room for everyone in cyberspace, so live and let live, I guess.
Another great read. Any thoughts on writing a book focused on life philosophy? It could be similar to articles you have been posting recently. It would be nice to see your thoughts on various topics as people like you are very hard to come by. What phone would you advise for someone who doesnt want a smartphone?
I want to buy, but in the process of looking for one. Take fucking care of yourself. Talk to women. Most men are afraid of feel insecure talking to women. Those men are the ones who watch me while I talk to women at night, wishing they would have the balls to do that.
I get rejected a fair ammount, but I get too a fair ammount of women who are ready to get fucked that night. Getting pussy is not hard, you just need 2 main things: look good and talk to women. So when you talk to them stop thinking in PUA mode believing you need to win them over or to make weird routines to appear cool or alpha. This is my experience at bars and clubs.
In any given night I know there are some women who go out to just have a good time with their friends those will reject me , while others go out expecting maybe in top of that to get fucked by a goodlooking and cool guy those will let me take the lead to my bedroom or theirs.
The latter are the girls you need to find and talk to. And while you talk to women stop fucking around trying to make them laugh or trying to appear alpha all the night, you need to discover if they are the ones who want action that night.
Start by some chit chat and try to make a physical move try to kiss her or grab her hands , making sure she knows your intentions. This is the MOST genuine advice I would give any man who tells me how I do it. So yeah, to get muscles, just have really great genetics and make sure you get to the gym 3x a week. They still get sore, tired, injured but nobody knows they lift. Oh the futility of it all. Basic math confounds all of this negative thinking and self-hatred. There are over 7 billion people on earth now…if just.
I find it almost unfathomable that there are that many frustrated men out there who are single and not getting any; am I to believe that several hundred roid monkeys and rich glamour boys with cash have utterly cornered the vaginal market, resigning And seriously Peter, who trains seriously for 5 years and has nothing to show for it? In 5 years I went from a chub master to a chiseled Adonis with — dare I say — a great body that received many compliments.
Anyone can built at least a decent physique with enough dedication and effort, and I did everything wrong training wise anyway in my first 5 years. Work on your looks. Take care of your looks, you will gains TONS of points. Your body, your grooming, your clothing style, when you start taking caring of yourself you will start to get comments, then your confidence will skyrocket.
That pessimistic attitude is fucking killing your chances. I have just got my heart broken a couplw of hours back despite following so suave secrets to attracting women I read ton of their stuff for years did everything by the book and guess what the last 6 women I met lied to me,dumped me which tore me apart.
as much as people hate this guy the Truth Seeker, everything he post is on point, money matters,looks matters, social status matters it sad to admit this but if you did everything by the book and still fail then you bound to ask if the world is safe place to live in. Your advice means nothing to average and below men. Most average guys who change that will be above average. First of all, most females in the US are fat. Supply and demand. That means that there is massive competition for the few young, attractive ones.
Most men have already thought about working out or trying to look better. Any substantial muscle gain will take years and probably not be too impressive.
Read the site or try to troll some other people. Third Another percentage of these women are black and very few men of any race find black women attractive citing dating site surveys and FBI crime stats on rape.
The black men are going after the white women and so is everyone else. So if you are a white man…tough luck. You make valid points. However I will say this. I am a white male turning Believe me the white girls here know it.
The game here is tight. My friends and I always look out for foreigners because we know how easy they are compared to local girls. Its not uncommon for there to be more guys to girls ratio in some of the local bars where my friends and I go. However I have still gotten some action and a few numbers even while competing for one of the only few hot white girls in the bar at times.
Because I just kept trying and approaching. Persistence and perseverance. If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to get it. No matter the odds. I am trying to illustrate that even against all odds you can still succeed. The right mindset is key however. Your experience alone in SA has proven and exposed that much of the BS on this site, spewed by the naysayers, is pure sour grapes.
You know what separates them from you? You tried because you believe in yourself, and you had success. And I get so pissed off whenever someone brings the race card into the game, as if being white now is some sort of inherent disadvantage. He came to the US with nothing and barely spoke English, now he has a family in an upscale neighborhood, and owns a marvelous 4, sq foot home, along with a successful mini-mart business with numerous stores. What next, do we drop our drawers and compare wankers?
And despite your deep forensic examination and analysis of the mating game, I noticed you still evaded my simple question: How did I pull it off and hit the jackpot? How did so many guys I know — most of whom were white, not so great looking and had hardly any serious money to their name — able to pull to pull it off? Were they all the statistical 85 year old smoker and still alive anomaly?
The funny thing is one of them was actually an ASIAN guy I went to college with, who literally had a harem of beautiful young women of every race and background. Yet here I set at the opposite end of the bar in great shape, very financially successful, and married to the perfect for me anyway woman.
Funny how that works. Attitude is everything my friend. Coupled with the a clean cut image and the right attitude and he will go far if he wants it bad enough. Message being that I came from nothing, was even fat as a young man, and needed to work on my presentation growing up into adulthood. I did, and succeeded on all venues. And if I can do it, so can just about everyone.
Average dudes are unattractive to average females. And who would be attracted to anyone out of shape with no aspirations, personally and professionally? I though we were talking about men who have their act together. Most young year old fertile women are not fat.
In fact, by comparison with males in a similar age group, they are usually in much better shape here in the US. I think your figures are skewed based on older single and married women. As for Asian women, you have a partial point. Some are just attracted to that particular race, simple as that. And Asian girls view a white man as social stature catch; they see them as ideal for mates because they consider them at the top of the social food chain of success. What race are most white women married to?
As a man your desirability goes way past the age of 20, in fact in only goes higher the longer you take care of yourself.
The cougar club is largely irrelevant in scale by comparison. And everyday a new crop of girls hits 18, 21, 25…your supply only goes up. I am in very good shape compared to the average guy. This is the truth, anything else is silly games. Every average guy has tried dressing nice, working out and talking to girls. Hey truth seeker!! Since i know the truth about life i cant sleep, i have insomnio. Any advice for better sleep? sory for my bad english, its not my native language, like you.
How can i improve my english? Distract yourself. Stop reading online. Do something physical — like extra working out, manual labor, ride a bicycle, run — just fatigue your system.
For example I needed 10 days of swiping and there were no more girls around girls using tinder in million city. And I had like matches which is very good for a man. Now tinder is super popular, a lot of guys are paying for it. All too often, people let that one facet of attractive people's personas be an all-encompassing trait, and this can hinder the appreciation of more important talents.
As you're not burdened by particularly distracting attractiveness, you're free to be appreciated for your intelligence, wit, and other favorable and ultimately, more important qualities. You might not be beautiful or handsome, but at least you're not conceited about your looks, right? Nothing is more insufferable than a date who thinks he or she is the best thing that ever happened to planet earth.
One thing I experience quite frequently in biographies, memoirs, and other tales from beautiful people, especially women, is an account of how painful it is to age and lose one's beauty. If you're not known for your beauty, or particularly attached to your looks, you won't have to endure the suffering associated with losing them! It is well understood that humans favour the norm, and value more normal appearances as more beautiful. This is understandable enough- we are all attracted to to that which is familiar.
Nevertheless, looking different and therefore less attractive can still be leveraged to one's advantage. Looking different allows one to stand out, be memorable, and make an impact.
If you look different, stop feeling self conscious and utilise your uniqueness to make an extra impact. Just think of all the famous and influential people in history who were known for odd or unique features- they rode their singularity to success; why don't you?
I would never presume to say that life is easy for those who are not attractive- toms of studies and anecdotes alike acknowledge that being beautiful can make life easier and more enjoyable. That said, one can use a disadvantage to make one ultimately stronger, hence being less attractive only gives one the opportunity to become more clever, agile, interesting, and talented.
In truth, there is no such thing as an ugly person. In my book, the only way one can be ugly is if one has a closed mind. That said, we can all agree that every culture has certain standards and understandings of what optimal and desirable physique and appearance is, and it is this to which I refer.
One can be very beautiful indeed and not conform to contemporary standards of attractiveness, and in that event, one will still feel quite ugly amidst peers. Physical Intimacy. Attracting a Mate. Date Ideas. Online Dating. Personality Type. Relationship Problems. Relationship Advice. Single Life. Online Dating Tips for Those With Non-Godlike Physiques Not gorgeous? Go for an honest, but witty profile picture : Thinking about photoshopping yourself to perfection?
Let's skip that one. You're only going to get yourself in trouble should you get to the in-person meeting stage. It's much better to be honest with your profile picture - but be honest and fun! Show that there's more to you than a boring person with mediocre looks—perhaps a photo of you skydiving would be fun, or a shot of you joking with a group of orphans you just saved from an erupting volcano you get the idea.
Don't say too much right away : A great way to scare people off online is to bare your soul too early in the game. Feel free to be honest about yourself and share fun details, but leave some things left to be discovered later—a little air of mystery can be a good thing.
I am a late smartphone bloomer. Bought my first one in September after an army of deep scratches captured the entire screen of my old Nokia and started digging towards its brain. I had no option but let my electronic foreign minister retire with respect. A week after the purchase, a small box arrived.
All I wanted was to feel the stock with my hands and inhale the intoxicating smell of fresh plastic. Uh… no. I have a PC for that. Who cares how I look? The readers of the site already know that I am an ectomorphic gringo. Yeah, I need to find some cool programs. A few weeks later, I learned about Tinder — supposedly the best dating app in the universe.
I liked the idea — only pictures and a few words to describe yourself. It was on my phone within seconds. It took me a while, but eventually, I decoded the mechanism of dating apps — unless you have the body of a deity or the face of a movie star coupled with decent height, you are bound to experience the murderous slap of rejection across your face. Here are the facts. looks [height, weight, face, age, muscle,…etc.
profession [money] 3. social status [do I want to be seen with this guy…? Only fake natties with highly aesthetic physiques and men with slicing jawlines and Paul Newman eyes can provide this experience.
You need to be considerably above average to make her stop swiping left. If you are a bald hobgoblin with crooked teeth and a hostage to rapidly multiplying fat cells, you can forget about matching with prime women. You have a good heart? Tell someone who cares. Maybe the pigeons you are feeding during the lonely walks in the park. Sorry, bro, but the world has never been more focused on looks as proven by the boom of Instagram.
What is Instagram anyway? Ultimately, Tinder and Instagram are based on the same visual engine — if you do well on Instagram, you will conquer Tinder too. Dream on, romantic soldiers. Women are just as visual if not more visual than men. One even shot me with the following inquiry:. Because I become very mean around short people! She got furious and removed me from her matches a second later. In reality, women judge you just as harshly as you judge them. The reason why you often see ugly men with better looking women are social status and physical assets.
Some females are willing to overlook appearance in exchange for goods and a position in this society. This is especially true for shrewd ladies with more stable hormones and kids to raise. Nonetheless, the belief that women have the strength to overcome their desire for prime males by buying material toys is false. The other big lie is that you have to develop an arsenal of pick-up lines to open the safe. Your pictures do most of the talking on Tinder. The words produced by the timid keystrokes of your thumbs are almost irrelevant.
As painful as it may sound to some, the more attractive you are, the more mistakes you are allowed to make. Different faces and bodies give different meanings to the same words.
When a short fat boy does the same, he is a psycho, and you should probably call the police. The explanation is simple: appearance acts as a filter giving various nuances to your actions. Your brain identifies a promising house for sale and tells you to get closer. Once you are in front, you realize that the nice sight was an optical illusion. Thick spider webs and dust are covering the entire edifice while the garden looks like the beard of a Neanderthal.
You step forward just to be sure that what your are experiencing is reality. In a millisecond, you are hit by a vitriolic smell with the properties of a bio weapon powerful enough to melt your brain and extract it drop by drop through your ears. Suddenly, you hear a weird sound and turn to the opposite side instinctively. Your eyes barely catch the reflection of an enormous genetically modified rat in one of the broken windows.
The masochist demon within pulls you even closer until you see a pile of ancient plastic bottles decaying under the orders of the Sun. Would you care to enter and continue with your investigation? I doubt it. Most would run. It works the same way with people. The signs never lie. Your external image is a direct result of what happens inside of you. This is why humans become prettier when they are happy and turn into repulsive flesh when death starts knocking on the door.
One of my two semi-friends is a woman. I told her about my observations on Tinder, but she was reluctant to classify my words as truth. This changed in the most ironic way possible. Just recently, she got out of a long-term relationship and decided to download Tinder. In less than 10 days, my semi-friend, acquired a new boyfriend who in her opinion has the perfect body.
It means that women are pulling the strings in the online world. Men of all strata are kneeling and begging for attention. Even the inboxes of somewhat unattractive females are flooded with propositions from thirsty boys. This gives women the power of choice. They get to pick males at the top of the modern food chain, and if you are not one…. well…forget about it and install StarCraft.
What would people do if they could get away with it? The right opportunity could turn even the most righteous man into a thief. Imagine that you are married. Suddenly, hot women start spamming you with superlatives and coded propositions for flesh based unions. What for? Tinder provides this opportunity to many women. The primary reason for women to install Tinder is neither sex nor a relationship quest. Women do it to boost their levels of self-worth.
A vast majority of the girls on Tinder have boyfriends and use the app to receive superlatives and feed their egos. A girl on Tinder confirmed this fact to me. The most effective confidence boost comes from good-looking guys. Nobody wants to receive compliments and likes from scrubs. Consequently, women chat primarily with the most aesthetically pleasing specimens. Movies, commercials, magazines, street posters, reality shows and social media create the reality of the modern humanoid.
The media have convinced everyone that the [steroid] look of fitness models is a direct result of training and all lifters could look like Panda or Zyzz after a summer in the gym. Women are part of the brainwashed group too. They still think that a few curls and a set of push-ups in the morning will turn anyone into a muscle beast. They simply want to touch sexy muscle and care not about the real sacrifice behind the modern aesthetic fibers, for the fact that strong logic is often absent from the female cranium.
A wise man once told me that looks cannot keep a relationship. This is probably true, but online dating is just a beginning — the time when physical compatibility matters the most. You need fuel to keep a car going, but you also need a spark to start it.
Shredded arms and a chiseled jawline provide the initial launch. The communication on Tinder and the like is extremely superficial and very few people get emotionally invested. It happened to me more than a few times. The explanation? Those women were never into me and were simply trying to extract compliments from my thumbs. Your writing style is second to none generously laced with humor and incisiveness…. Keep it up buddy….
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1. You will find it easier to cultivate and be appreciated for other talents. Even talented beautiful people have to battle with a sort of stigma- in this case, it's the stigma of being attractive. All I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards). From grade-school dances in gyms to corporate happy hours, I’ve been AdJoin Millions of Americans Finding Love Online With Our Top 5 Sites For Relationships! See Why Singles Love These Dating Sites. Find Something Serious Or Casual. Start Today!Seen by Daily · College Graduates · Meet Professional Elites · Marriage-Minded Ads Of Hispanic Women Join Every Week. Discover Your Perfect Match With ColombianCupid! Answer (1 of 9): Well,, I always believe datings sites are make for us unattractive people, cause beautiful women won’t have such problem of dating. You can use all of them as you like You are not alone, I’m here with you AdCompare Top 10 Online Dating Sites - Try the Best Dating Sites Today!This can also be handy if youre very busy and dont have time to navigate between Service catalog: Dating Wizard, Personalising Your Result, Safe & Secure Profiles ... read more
If despite his features, he still gets a hot lady's attention, then he is worth respecting. If you value yourself this should be obvious. Read the site or try to troll some other people. If you are an average guy who get 1 like or 2 a month, how can you possibly have a chance with an average woman who gets messages a week? Third Another percentage of these women are black and very few men of any race find black women attractive citing dating site surveys and FBI crime stats on rape. Any thoughts on writing a book focused on life philosophy? Many false assumptions and chicken-vs-egg arguments: Average dudes are unattractive to average females.Message being that I came from nothing, was even fat as a young man, and needed to work on my presentation growing up into adulthood. Managing the Challenging Person: Tips and Tricks, online dating for unattractive. Some females are willing to overlook appearance in exchange for goods and a position in this society. Ask her out right away. Go on a couple of dates with that person, in order to find out if there's any chemistry between you two, then you two can take it from there.